Over the three years that I was involved with internet dating, I was especially struck by the “magic number”: 5’8”.
I swear, whenever a man wrote that he was 5’8”, he was inevitably 5’5” or less, so imagine what a chuckle I got out of USA Today’s article in the Sports section (9/15/08) about Boston Red Sox (I’m a big fan) second baseman Dustin Pedroia.
The men ranked a woman who outscored them as a more desirable partner, with the study stating that “men formed favourable impressions and showed greater interest in women who displayed more (versus less) intelligence than themselves.” However, the second part of the study – when men were asked if they would date such a woman in real life – showed that the men got cold feet.
“[Men faced in this real life scenario] distanced themselves more from her, tended to rate her as less attractive, and showed less desire to exchange contact information or plan a date with her”.
That's according to researchers who carried out several studies into what men find desirable in women.
When you’re not having fun, the heavy energy of disappointment and skepticism will repel high quality men, reinforcing all of the reasons why you don’t like dating.
While the authors behind the study caution that more experimentation may be needed to confirm the conclusion, they do believe that “feelings of diminished masculinity accounted for men’s decreased attraction toward women who outperformed them.” Who knew masculinity could be so fragile?
I kept procrastinating, even though I knew the only way I could meet anyone was online. No matter, that was their issue, and if it was so important to them, then they weren't the kind of man I wanted anyway.
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