"To which a pedantic (and annoyingly bright) seven-year-old might reply: "What, never! "Shyness may have gotten you into the habit of always waiting for the other person to start the conversation. Actually, it's not so much what you say - within reason - but how you come across when you're saying it.
How about when I'm forty; at a party or having a job interview? Being totally at ease striking up conversations with new people in social or business settings hugely improves life as you simultaneously have more fun and create more opportunities. Sure, confidently telling a stranger they have a nose the size of Trinidad is unlikely to win immediate friendship however pleasant your demeanour.
I understand that controlling other people is bad and planning every aspect of life is also a fail, but to just let love happen wasn’t a talent I possessed.
The biggest question of all, that every man and woman needs to answer if they’re single is why should anyone date you.
This means anything you say is more likely to feel right (within sensible limits). But gentle, not too probing, questions show you're interested (and people find interested people interesting).
So why not join in the fun filled evenings of laughter, chat, flirting, expand your circle of friends, develop your confidence and meet a special person you want to see again?
You might be likable, funny, honest and caring but what sets you apart from every other human being? Unfortunately, that word has many negative connotations and is always somehow linked to sex.
Sell may not be the most desirable term either but it is at least somewhat accurate.
So how do you sell yourself, do you stand on the side of the freeway like they do with oranges? You sell, the way that Coke or Pepsi sells, you become so synonymous with a lifestyle that whoever wants that life will essentially want you.
Beauty, sophistication, culture, these are elements of lifestyles that many singles are looking for.